Oh, I definitely know what mine is. This process really resonated with me. I've worked with these thoughts and beliefs before and when you recall the emotion and impact when you finally named it -- wow. I remember the moment I did that, too. Tears flowed. that was it. This was revealed to me when I was doing Byron Katie's "The Work" with a partner. Naming it is so powerful and an important step!
Yes I know mine too. It’s that I’m unlovable. But I realized and accepted (maybe I shouldn’t have accepted) that a long time ago. It explained so much: the rejection, the punishments, the unreciprocated love, being ignored, left out, etc. (Mostly family!) Easy explanation: I was unlovable. With that explanation, the world around me made sense. And so I spent a great deal of my life being invisible. I would disappear for long stretches of time (after all, no one would notice), I travelled around the world, I went on long road or train trips or solo cruises. But even though I’ve named it, accepted it, long ago stopped even wanting validation from others, I’m still triggered when someone talks to me dismissively. Can’t get past that one. Sorry, didn’t know this was going to be so long!
Thank you for this share Susan. This must be a reason why we have found one another. Today I reveal my wounds. We have similar stories I feel. Sending you ❤️
Oh, I definitely know what mine is. This process really resonated with me. I've worked with these thoughts and beliefs before and when you recall the emotion and impact when you finally named it -- wow. I remember the moment I did that, too. Tears flowed. that was it. This was revealed to me when I was doing Byron Katie's "The Work" with a partner. Naming it is so powerful and an important step!
I so appreciate your perspective and experience here Gayle! So many are afraid to do this work but I've found that the more I do, the better I feel.
Absolutely!
Yes I know mine too. It’s that I’m unlovable. But I realized and accepted (maybe I shouldn’t have accepted) that a long time ago. It explained so much: the rejection, the punishments, the unreciprocated love, being ignored, left out, etc. (Mostly family!) Easy explanation: I was unlovable. With that explanation, the world around me made sense. And so I spent a great deal of my life being invisible. I would disappear for long stretches of time (after all, no one would notice), I travelled around the world, I went on long road or train trips or solo cruises. But even though I’ve named it, accepted it, long ago stopped even wanting validation from others, I’m still triggered when someone talks to me dismissively. Can’t get past that one. Sorry, didn’t know this was going to be so long!
Thank you for this share Susan. This must be a reason why we have found one another. Today I reveal my wounds. We have similar stories I feel. Sending you ❤️